I’ve been digging into these microniches in the dating space lately, trying to learn all I can about everything. One niche I stumbled across recently was dating for crossdressers. Don’t laugh, it’s a real niche and fetish that some people have. In fact, some people hire call girls to join them in this act. While I tend to prefer to have my lady friend wearing the bra, panties, and heels, some choose otherwise. I’ve done all that I can to help familiarize you and many others with the crossdresser dating facts. Here’s what’s important and what you need to know…
Crossdressing & Online Dating Facts
Crossdressers are not always just guys in a dress, but they can also be considered FemBoys and Sissies. They are not typically considered Trannies because they’re not actively looking to lose the penis they were born with. Instead, crossdressing fills in a void they may feel or allows them to explore their more feminine side.
Whatever reason these guys are into crossdressing, there are people out there that appreciate it and are actually turned on by it. This means that those who are crossdressing and those who like guys that do it need a dating site or two to connect. Crossdressing isn’t as taboo as it once was, so there are definitely some great sites out there for dating, friendship, and sex.
Just a word of advice, if you’re looking to find a crossdresser for dating or sexual relations, you need to be sure to be respectful and make sure that you’re open about what you’re looking for and listen to what they’re looking for.
Some of these men are not gay, they’re not looking to be abused, and many of them are confused as to what they want or why they feel the way they do. Treat a crossdresser the same way you would treat a lady and if things progress, respect their wishes in and out of the bedroom.
If you’re a crossdresser, femboy, sissy, or someone that is looking to connect with any of these types of people, these are the best crossdresser dating sites on the internet right now.
The Best Crossdresser Dating Sites Online
- Adult Friend Finder
No matter what type of partner you are looking for, Adult Friend Finder is the place to find them. Adult Friend Finder is full of crossdressers that you can interact with on many levels including chatting, emailing, videos, and eventually meeting in person.
With the 24-hour support and huge member base, you really can’t lose using Adult Friend Finder, whether it is to find a crossdresser, another type of kink partner, or just a regular, vanilla type of friend. Just be prepared to pay up, membership on Adult Friend Finder isn’t cheap, but with everything you get, it is totally worth it.
The absolute best crossdresser and trans meeting app has to be Trans. Now, let me preface that with a warning: Trans has a very small membership base, so you may not have local crossdressers near you, but if you’re willing to travel, you’ll be set.
Trans is available on Apple and Android, but you won’t be able to use it on your computer, so if that’s an issue, you’ll want to move on. Trans has a very “Tinder-like” feel, so users will probably understand how to use it.
As I mentioned before, many guys treat crossdressers, sissies, and femboys like they’re just there to bang, and while some of those feminine guys are into that, there are others that aren’t. Please be sure to temper your discussions to what the crossdresser wants, otherwise, you’re going to be like all the other lunk-heads on Trans.
Reddit may not seem like a dating site but hear me out. Redditors for Redditors is a totally free way to meet crossdressers and there are members from around the world in all age ranges. You can use your regular Reddit membership to search for crossdressers, sissies, and trannies, just don’t expect many pictures of these sexy boi’s, with Reddit it is a touch harder to post them.
Reddit does moderate everything that is posted, so try to keep things safe for all members or you’re going to struggle using Reddit to find a crossdresser. So, if you’re m4m, m4t, t4m, f4m, or anything in between, you’re probably going to find it there.
If you don’t know what Fetlife is about, you’re probably crawling out from under a rock. Fetlife has been around quite a while and is the king site of kinks, no matter what you’re into. Fetlife allows everyone to join and you will find just about every variation of a kink on the site that you can think of.
As of today, Fetlife doesn’t have a separate classification for crossdressers, so you’ll have to look under the gay category, but trust me, its well worth it if you’re a lover of feminine men. But, don’t expect these femboys to be complete wimps, this fetish site means that some of these crossdressers are into being dominant and rough, so make sure that’s something you’d be willing to try out.
With over eight million members, Fetlife is probably one of the busiest dating sites out there, especially with it being affordable and a safe outlet for exploring kinks.
- Craigslist Activities
Sigh. Remember when you could get onto Craigslist Personals and find every type of sexual encounter you could dream of? Well, those days are gone, unfortunately.
Craigslist has taken down its personal’s sections for governmental reasons, but all hope is not lost. Craigslist Activities still allows groups of people to post meetings, meetups, and other gatherings which occasionally lists local activities involving crossdressing.
Communication on Craigslist can be tedious, you have to use their email system to start out, but for a free site, you really can’t lose.
Alt.com is an alternative to Fetlife that is chock-full of all the alternative fetishes that many people like to take part in. Joining Alt.com is easy and free, but if you want anything beyond the basics, you’ll have to become a paid member. Keep in mind that you’ll have to join with some identifying information, such as a phone number or social media profile, so it isn’t totally anonymous, which many people aren’t going to be happy with.
Alt.com does have some great features if you’re brave enough to join, including advanced searching, instant messaging, chatting, photos, videos, content filters, and even a purity test to see just how kinky you’re looking to get. If you’re looking for a crossdresser, Alt.com is a great place to try.
Tinder is used by everyone and their grandmother (sorry to put that visual into your mind). This means that straight, gay, and everything in between has taken to this popular app to find love and lust, including our favorite crossdressers.
Tinder is mostly geared towards long-term relationships, but there are people there looking for hookups, you’ll just have to dig a bit to find them. There are 10 different sexual orientations that a member can choose from and everyone has to upload pictures to join, which is a great bonus. Just be careful, Tinder is notorious for catfishing, so make sure what you see is legit.
Simple to use, available on Apple and Android, and super busy with people of all types, Tinder is a great site to find your gender-bending hottie.
If you like to keep your dating life completely in apps and not on the computer, and you like apps that are simple to use and kind of feel like the uber-popular Tinder, then Bumble may be for you.
Bumble is available on Apple and Android and allows all sexual orientations, including crossdressing, which isn’t listed under the general category of “gay”. There aren’t as many crossdressers currently using Bumble, but it is a good alternative if you need something new.
Everyone on Bumble is respectful, so try to keep things that way. Content that is explicit will be blocked, oh, and if you are just looking for friends, you can do that too. Not everything is about sex on Bumble, but there is a fair amount of it, just not hardcore.
Once you’ve found someone you like, you’re going to give their picture a swipe, and with Bumble, they only have 24 hours to respond. If they don’t, the interest is gone and you cannot connect, which is kind of a bummer, but that’s the way the cookie crumbles on Bumble.
If you are a lover of all things gender-bending, or you’re a crossdresser, femboy, tranny, or sissy, there are a multitude of dating site options that cater to everything you enjoy and love. Now, go out there and get your groove on, you sexy beasts!
Again, I’m not into crossdressing, but dating via apps and sites online is my jam and this is just another niche I promised readers I’d cover. I’ll stick to my martini thirsty milfs in Miami…