While some may think I’m just a regular guy, others know that I’m a guru when it comes to slaying booty via dating apps. No joke, I’ve done it all and know a thing or two about hooking up with random women.
I wasn’t always as successful as I am today and trust me when I say, I’ve failed quite a bit in the past. If there’s one reason why I failed and why I succeeded, it all definitely boils down to strategy.
I like to read a lot in my free time (when I’m not out on a date just for sex). The reading has really helped me get better at things, particularly dating.
NO – I don’t read PUA (pick up artist) author blogs and posts. The content that I consume is far more educational and informative than those guys claiming to be the best at getting girls. Don’t listen to those knuckleheads.
Instead, I’m going to share some examples of a few “good” and “bad” strategies to help you get a better idea of what might be the better approach to hooking up in general.
The Good and Bad Strategies Of Casual Dating
I’ve kept this article informal just so it’s less stuffy and boring. Please digest this information and let me know if you have anything to either comment on or add in terms of strategic approaches of hooking up.
Using An App
Good Strategy: Doing your research and joining one that specifically caters to your needs. If you’ve got a thing for hot moms, then join an app that tries to attract really beautiful milfs.
Bad Strategy: Simply joining a mainstream app like Hinge.com or Match.com just because you see commercials for it on TV. You’ll end up wasting time and money.
Creating Your Profile
Good Strategy: Tailor your profile photos, name, and bio to cater to the same type of people actively joining the network. Being upfront and honest about who you are and what your intentions are with things.
Bad Strategy: Blatantly lying on your profile, using a horrible image or even an image of someone else that looks nothing like you just to get views.
Eventually, they will figure it out and you’ll get banned, lose your money, and will be blackballed across many networks. Yes, even the free ones.
Chatting via Messenger
Good Strategy: Slowly working into things and being respectful, yet flirtatious at the same time. Sending sincere chat messages which contain compliments and questions that the other person can relate to.
Bad Strategy: Going in hard and simply asking if they want to bang. Using derogatory or nasty/foul language to describe what you want to do and how you want to do it. Asking to trade nude pics right away. Not waiting even a minute to ask if they want to meet in person for a sex date.
Meeting Someone In Person
Good Strategy: Meeting in a public place such as a nice restaurant or upscale bar. Kindly offering to pay for anything that the two of your order. Asking the person if they’d like to accompany you to another location for another drink.
Bad Strategy: Meeting in a private (non-public) location. Not adding anything to the conversation. Assuming that the other person is going to pay for everything.
Ordering the most expensive thing on the menu and rudely ordering your drink before your dates.
Connecting For A Bootycall
Good Strategy: Reaching out midday to get a feel for what your potential booty call has lined up for the night. Giving them a heads up that you “might” be around later tonight but it’s pending a few things. Showing up with something for your booty call beside a hard-on.
Bad Strategy: Calling and texting late in the evening repeatedly even after no response from the individual. Showing up at their house/apartment without confirming that they want you to come over. Not bringing anything with you, not even something to drink or condoms for protection.
Good Strategy: Asking if they want you to hang out or if they’d like to get something to eat. Having a friendly conversation and allowing each other to shower and get cleaned up before going back to your daily lives.
Asking if they’d like to stay in touch and perhaps do “this” again some time in the future.
Bad Strategy: Not communicating with your sex partner. Leaving without saying goodbye. Blatantly not offering anything for them, not even a shower, refreshment, or food.
Exiting the hotel, bedroom, or house with things in shambles and never connecting with them ever again to even say thanks.
Well, there you have it, folks. Those are my strategies for having good sex on a date or booty call and as well as those which I sincerely hope you avoid.
The rest is up to you and how you’d like things to play out. Good luck and remember, it’s all about strategizing things if you want them to go your way!
If all else fails, just join this app and call it a day! You’ll hookup regardless there.
Happy hookups! – Ryan